How to Beat Resentment
- Are you experiencing resentment?
- Do you constantly compare yourself to other guitar players?
- Could it be that this resentment is holding you back from truly expressing yourself the way you want to?
Not to worry, youre not alone. This has plagued me and countless other players throughout the ages. I specifically have dealt with this and wanted to share how I got myself out of this deafening hole.
I can go back and read about rivalries and feuds between composers and how one thought the others music was pure horse-shit.. but if you listen to it yourself you’d probably say “damn what a genius.” And Thats no lie.
Living Biographies of Great Composers by Henry Thomas and Dana Lee. Check out the following audiobook and you’ll hear it for yourself.
Fair Warning: This book may make you want to quit your job and be a full time musician. I'll leave that one up to you.
Its all subjective..thats why you shouldnt give a fuck.
Heres how you can beat it and put it 6 feet under for GOOD.
Get away from this other player thats constantly making you feel insecure.
Or if you are in the same band or circle of friends, get authentic. Be genuine with yourself and accept that he may be better in some things but you have a unique quality to your playing that others will appreciate.
BECAUSE YOU DO…
If he is a professional player dont listen to his music for awhile. Explore other players in which you dont feel this feeling of jealousy or resentment.
You might not even know that this is affecting you until years later so ask yourself today… Am I not playing up to my potential because I think I will never reach the status of some other players?
Be honest. Be genuine with yourself. You owe it to yourself.
You might want to ask this person what he or she does to become that good. By doing this you will know how its done then all you have to do is go out and do it. Be happy with wherever you are right now. Take it one step at a time.
Be grateful and youll enjoy the guitar much much more.
Heres the main thing I focused on when I felt this and wanted to stop feeling this emotional rollercoaster. I humbled myself. I asked him questions.
Eventually I took lessons from him.